Thursday, August 27, 2015

93 Miles

Ninety-three miles.  That’s it.  Cuba is only ninety-three miles away from the United States.  If we were on land, you could drive there in an hour and a half.  Why, some people drive that long in this country just to get to work every day. 
Ninety-three miles. That is virtually the same distance as a round trip between Martha’s Vineyard and Cape Cod.  
Ninety-three miles and fifty-four years of two countries being a world apart.  Until now.  This week Secretary of State John Kerry went to Cuba to raise the American flag above the U.S. Embassy for the first time in 54 years.  History just shifted, an embargo was lifted and we all came back into view.
My own lack of knowledge about Cuba and its history is astounding. I learned about the Cuban Revolution, Fidel Castro and the Missile Crisis as glibly as I absorbed Life magazine photos of Cuban cars and cigars.  Back then we were a nation of children watching adults watch the news, in a world of black and white. I was seven years old.  Parents talked late into the night in hushed tones about the Cold War, Kennedy and Castro. Children were to be seen and not heard.
I lived in the state that bred the Kennedy monarchy, in a time determined to sell us a post war bliss.  We were fed a new normal surrounded by TV dinners, potatoes flakes in a box, Soupy Sales, PF Flyers, Romper Room, puppets and clowns.  Dads were meant to go off to work in the tall buildings in the city and Moms could stay home in the burbs, wearing pearls.  There were cocktail parties, convertibles and terraces in a time when magazines had full page ads for Winstons and whiskey.  It was a world right before stereo, plastic, pill box hats and pantyhose.  Meanwhile, in Cuba, a mere ninety-three miles away, there was a revolution, a dictator and families were being torn apart.  Children were seen but some never heard from again. 
My understanding of the Cuban people and its rich, beautiful culture was never in my history books.  I can’t remember one course in school that chose to dive deep into it.  There were no people of Cuban descent in my world and no stories shared. A plethora of Cuban talent and important people never made it to my privileged, packaged, political world.  The Cuban culture came to me only through the stereotype of Ricky Ricardo from I Love Lucy.  And that Havana scene in Guys and Dolls.   Ninety-three miles away became out of this world, merely forgotten and forbidden.  
Flash forward to the custody and immigration status battle of Elian Gonzalez in 2000 in Miami, Florida and that about covered my deep dive into experiencing the politics of Cuba.  Sprinkle in a few vacations to Miami for some Cuban culture and that was about it. 
Until last year.
Last spring I got cast in the play Sonia Flew by Melinda Lopez.  We were a cast transported back to Cuba 1961 as seen through the fictional family experiencing Castro’s Cuba.  I played teenage Sonia’s mother, Pilar.
Researching and preparing for this role became a Cuban crash course in the history I never received.  The political pain and fear from which I was protected was at the heart of these characters and the world in which they survived.  But truth be told:  Sonia Flew was the first time I had ever heard of Operation Pedro Pan.  It was nothing like the Peter Pan from which it translates.  It seems Never, Never land lasted 54 years.
“Operation Pedro Pan was the largest recorded exodus of unaccompanied minors in the Western Hemisphere…a joint operation by the U.S. government and the Catholic Welfare Bureau, Pedro Pan secretly airlifted to the United States more than 14,000 children after warnings began to surface that Fidel Castro’s government would soon be taking children, against the wishes of their parents, to military schools and to Soviet labor camps.  Once in the U.S. some children were united with family members who had immigrated earlier to the U.S. but others were sent to live with foster families, to boarding schools or orphanages in as many as 35 states.   Parents who made the decision to send their children to Operation Pedro Pan probably figured that the Castro regime wouldn’t last long and their children would soon be home.”  (Source: JTB program) 
However, many never saw their parents again. Like Sonia in the play when she is ripped from her parents to suddenly leave for America in the dark of night.  It’s was a final scene in a beautiful script that implores us to remember and never forget.  The children, the parents.  The beautiful country, its culture and people.  
Ninety three miles away this week two countries met again in the middle, and raised their flags in peace.  

I watched it on the TV news, in color and wept.  

Wednesday, August 12, 2015

Holding the Prescription



"How ARE you?" I asked the familiar woman in the aisle while shopping at Target. Several life chapters ago, this woman used to be a fixture in my life. Today, we were merely anonymous consumers, discreetly holding our obvious purchases. I was trying to carry all mine but they kept inadvertently slipping out of my hands as I spoke, one by one and onto the floor. Over and over again, up and down, as I swung to catch one and then grab another from falling. It was like Cirque du Soleil for Bathroom Supplies. It was ridiculous, and I was regretting not getting a cart.
While I was busy juggling, it seemed she was clutching. The pharmacist had just handed her several prescriptions, and she grabbed them tightly in a fist and then held them all extremely close to herself. They seemed a confidential shield between us, despite the fact that all the labels were facing out. The conversation began as normal, but when combined with the props and staging it was all teetering on being oddly discordant.
"Wow, it's been like ten years since I've seen you - how is your family?" she asked kindly. I caught her up quickly, and pulled out my Smartphone for the quintessential photos. There were ooo’s and ahh’s as well as both of us reflecting on how we were now older, and aging.
I was trying to remember her daughter’s name. "How's your daughter? She went to medical school, right?"
“Yes.”
There was not one brain cell that could recall this child’s name, but I could picture her vividly. As a young girl, she seemed extremely shy, quiet and very studious. She had skipped a grade and was always into academic pursuits, as were her parents. She had been destined for a PhD or more. “She’s a doctor, now, right?”
"Well, actually, not anymore. She just left the profession, after all that training and all those years in practice.”
“OH. Really? Wow...Well, what does she do now?”
“She’s a country singer.” Thud went the toilet paper.
"I'm sorry? What?" I said as I tried to hold it all together.
"A country singer."
This seemed the very last thing one would ever, ever, ever, ever have thought this quiet, reserved child would choose to become, or genre of music I would imagine they might ever have played at home. This news immediately made me irrational. I fixated on the stage personas of Dolly Parton, Loretta Lynn, Winona Judd and Faith Hill and placed them onto this young woman I knew. Like a virtual paper doll in my head. None of them fit.
“Wow…" I said to myself but realized it was out loud.
I eventually rallied with, "Is she happy?"
"Happier than we ever imagined! Who knew she could sing?!!!!!" She gesticulated freely now every time she spoke, with her bags of prescriptions sounding like medicinal maracas.
“Yeah, really. Huh. Who knew…”
The Noxema now fell from my grasp, and was rolling away so I skipped around the corner to pick it up. "Have you actually heard her sing?" I said while on the other side.
"Nope, not yet."
I was regrouping my purchases as well as my reaction. "So…a country singer…Huh. Well, I guess she moved to Nashville, Tennessee then?"
"No, no, no, she still lives in New York with her husband."
“Oh. Well, I suppose New York City is a really good choice for a singer, too!”
"Actually, they live in Scarsdale. Scarsdale, New York.” She shuffled the white bags of prescriptions as if she were putting them in order. I shuffled my feet.
“Is there a lot of work for country singers in Scarsdale?" And just as I began to slip into judging, her words guided me back.
"I don't know, good question! All we know is she is very happy and finding her way. We are so proud of her.”
“Well, that’s beautiful. She must feel, well, so free now. It sounds like she has a new calling. Good for her!” At this point I finally had a good handle on what I was holding.
“I just knew you would understand! After all, both of your adult children chose to be artists!”
“Yes, indeed. They sure did. Right. ”
A few minutes later, we hugged goodbye, holding the basics between us. My old friend seemed at peace as we stood between the hedgerows of feminine products, incontinence pads and hemorrhoid ointments. It seemed an important place to honestly bear the truth and reckon with all that keeps us humble and real.